Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change
Dr Wayne W Dyer
COMPARE is to judge oneself against someone or something.
CONTRAST is to choose to see the difference
Comparing is negative and makes us not as good as someone or something.
Whereas when we use contrast we are not involved, it is without judgement.
One comes from a disempowering place and the other comes with acceptance.
So instead of, for example comparing yourself to your neighbour all the time, change your perspective. Smile at what you like about her, be happy for her, share what she has and even see if there is action you can take to enjoy what she is enjoying.
Comparison is said to kill gratitude. Use gratitude to take the shift away from comparison - to appreciate what is working in your life as oppose to what is not.
Who and what are you comparing to? Can you make the internal shift from comparing to contrasting?
Stop keeping up with the Joneses and instead embrace the Joneses!
2 comments:
Great start Clare. It s quite a profound topic. Here s what it raises up for me: Comparing is disempowering because it separates me from what I am comparing myself to. It makes me feel as if I am " more than..." or "less than..."
Whereas, using contrast in our life to rise above our present condition, is to use what we admire in others as a springboard for revealing our own
magnificence. This makes sense if you keep in mind that you cannot feel attracted or reppled by anything in anyone, if you don t already have these qualities (or characteristics )within you.
Hope this is "clair" , Clare!
Claire!!!!
Hey Clare, great post and observation. It's so true what you say about comparing and contrasting. Certainly I used to compare all of the time, it's how I was brought up and I guess the media doesn't help with all of the advertising.
As I grow personally, I certainly am moving more towards the contrasting and its a powerful tool that you have identified. Subtle but powerful! Like you say in your post, contrasting is far more empowering and I guess the trick is to remember to contrast rather than compare when we find ourselves in such situations.
Keep up the great work.
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